Caring Matters
Relentless regret is often felt by survivors of childhood trauma. Particularly after we have managed to distance ourselves from the source of our pain, we get into get stuck in rumination loops of – if [Read More]
Memory reconsolidation is an important aspect of trauma healing. Remembering, accepting, making sense, and shifting those painful memories where they belong – in the past. You don’t forget traumatic memories, however, it moves into long-term [Read More]
Those early interpersonal interactions with our primary caregivers are the building block of identity formation. They are the look-glass through which we form our core beliefs (lovable/good-enough or unlovable/defective) which in turn molds our mindset(mental [Read More]
An integral part of feeling human is that sense of belongingness. We are innately programmed to want to belong to something/someone beyond ourselves. At the core of belongingness are acceptance, support, and protection. Prolonged lack [Read More]
One important step in my healing process is becoming wise about human nature. It has meant changing how I view the world and my relationships. There were so many untruths from my childhood I have [Read More]
Currently, I am in a liminal space, an in-between state where my traumatized past self is nearly gone but my new personality is still in development. For years, I was frozen in time, a frightened, [Read More]
There is this saying, ‘I cried because I had no shoes, till I saw a man with no feet.” No doubt, our trauma is valid and we have a right to feel resentful, angry, sad, [Read More]
Survival in a dysfunctional family entails keeping our parents/caregivers happy. How they feel, what they want is what matters. We repress our true feelings, needs, desires in fear of being beaten, derided, or rejected. We [Read More]
‘Fascia is the organ of posture’ according to the inimitable Ida Rolf, creator of Rolfing Therapy. And it is very sensitive to the emotional firings of our brain. Growing up in a state of chronic [Read More]
Closure from our painful past is something that cannot be willed. However much you wish, you simply cannot just shut the door and stop the putrid stench wafting into your present existence – you just [Read More]