Caring Matters
Survival in a dysfunctional family entails keeping our parents/caregivers happy. How they feel, what they want is what matters. We repress our true feelings, needs, desires in fear of being beaten, derided, or rejected. We [Read More]
Thanks to my neuroplastic brain, life feels much better. I have come a long way. The pain, confusion, and utter despair have given way to feeling hopeful about the future. It is not something that [Read More]
Closure from our painful past is something that cannot be willed. However much you wish, you simply cannot just shut the door and stop the putrid stench wafting into your present existence – you just [Read More]
One of my biggest struggles in healing from childhood trauma is managing ruminating thoughts and intrusive memories. Like a broken record my mind simply keeps replaying the past over and over again. How does one [Read More]
As far back as I can remember, I had trouble putting my needs first. I grew up in a home where I was taught it was selfish to think of myself ahead of others. I’d [Read More]
Most of us have grown up being shamed for expressing anger. With such an upbringing we learn to repress our anger and internalize the shame about our feelings. We are unable to manage or tolerate [Read More]
I had heard about EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) quite some time ago. But the skeptic in me thought this was simply some pseudo-healing therapy, just a placebo pill for the gullible. How could tapping on [Read More]
Covert abuse is death by slow poison, administered by toxic dysfunctional human beings. Usually, it occurs in close relationships. Since, there is no physical violence, at first, you try to ignore it and try to [Read More]
Recently, I read a heartwarming story in Tim Ferris’s Blog. The writer relates how one night in the pits of despair she experienced the transformative power of an enlightened witness. Through that serendipitous connection, she [Read More]
Many of us grew up in homes that did not support or acknowledge our child emotions. We were shamed, mocked worse told to shut up or else… This gives rise to another subset of emotions [Read More]